Do you avoid setting goals because your to-do list is long enough? Do you find you set goals but then real life happens? Are your goals derailed by unexpected opportunities?
Not everyone uses goal-setting as a tool to help shape their life or business – and that’s okay! Personally, at the ending/beginning of a year, I do reflect on the year before and set goals for the year ahead. It helps remind me where the time went and focus for the year ahead. But for some people this just isn’t their modus operandi.
Whether you’re the goal setting type or not, I propose that in 2017 you challenge yourself with a different kind of resolution – a goal that doesn’t take up room on your to-do list. A goal that influences all your other goals (or non-goals!).
Decide how you want to do the things you do. That is, how you want to be, exist, interact in your day to day life. Are there areas in your life in which you would like to feel or act differently? What area(s)? Take the time to define this for yourself.
For example, it could be: I would like to change my overall stress levels by keeping things in perspective and remembering, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.”
The more specific you can be, the better the chance of lasting change. The next important thing is to ask yourself what it looks or feels like when you are following through and living this resolution. Take a moment to visualize. Energy follows intention; if you cannot see yourself succeeding, it is less likely to happen. What does it mean, look like and feel like to not sweat the small stuff? Perhaps your underlying desire is to be able to enjoy the present moment more, to take the time for genuine connection with the people around you as opposed to feeling distracted by the weight of all the small stuff (I know, it adds up!). Visualize yourself doing this – and beautifully. Close your eyes and see it. 5 seconds. 15 seconds. 30 seconds. See it. As long as you can, as many times as you can.
It is important to set yourself up for success. Rather than making this intention and forgetting about it after the first week of January, you’ll need to establish reminders to check in with yourself on this, frequently, over the course of the next year. Perhaps you could make “don’t sweat the small stuff” your mantra, and repeat it often enough that it becomes second nature, like breathing. Perhaps you could choose an image to print and put on display beside your bed to serve as a reminder of your resolution, or carry with you a tangible object that reminds you of your intent. Are there other tools you can think of to arm yourself? Gather your resources, like close friends (perhaps literally your close friends!), so they’re there when you need them.
Have fun with this. You are empowering yourself. Moment by moment you are enriching your quality of life, no matter what task you’re working on. Maybe you’re learning to enjoy taking out the garbage. It’s all possible. Decide now. Decide how.
If you want support with your goals, resolutions and health, I am always here for you.
Happy new year and see you soon.
Author: Laura Burns
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